Adoption Announcement Etiquette
The adoption of a child is cause for celebration and a
popular way to share the excitement and joy with family and friends is through
an adoption announcement. The etiquette for adoption announcements
is essentially the same as for birth announcements with a few caveats.
As with birth announcements, the rule of thumb is to
send the adoption announcement within the first six months that your
child officially joins the family. However, because adoption is typically a
long drawn-out process with numerous legal hurdles, it is quite acceptable to
be a little late especially when many people on the receiving end are not
likely to notice the delay. For international adoption where the adoption is
finalized before the child can leave their birth country, parents usually send
out the announcements as soon as they bring their child home. For domestic
adoption, parents are usually advised to wait until the "honeymoon period" is over
before sending out announcements. During this period, which typically ranges from 30 to
60 days depending on the state, biological parents can rescind their decision
to place a child for adoption. Statistically, post-placement revocations are
rare (1-2%), but some parents feel the emotional consequences are too high for
them to risk making the announcement prematurely.
Once the legalities are finalized, take out your address
book and start making your mailing list! Beyond the usual family, friends,
neighbors, and co-workers, don't forget to include the people that have helped
you along the adoption process: social workers, liaisons, adoption agencies,
attorneys ... anyone who played a role in your child's arrival. Adoptive parents
tend to target a wide circle of people to send their adoption announcement.
An adoption announcement is similar to a birth announcement in composition and style. Instead of announcing "the birth of"
a baby, the words "arrived" or "placed in our arms" are used. See our wording
ideas for sample verses. Because family circumstances vary widely, adoption announcements are less restrictive in format than birth announcements.
In fact, some of the most creative composition that we've seen at Baby Cachet
comes from parents announcing their child's adoption. Other than the child's
name, parents' names, and adoption date, any other information you'd like to
proffer is up to you. For babies you may wish to also include the birth date,
birth weight, and birth length on the announcement. For toddlers or foster
children who are eventually adopted, omitting the birth statistics and
indicating just the birth date, even if it's a few years removed, is completely
acceptable. There's also flexibility in what you call the adoption date. It can
be the date you first met your child, the date he first stayed the night with
you, the date the adoption is final, or another date that has significance to
you. Many parents end up using several dates on their announcement.
If the child is adopted from a different country, it's
popular to include the birthplace on the adoption announcement. To
show off your multicultural family, consider incorporating some symbols of your
child's birth country. For example, if your child is adopted from China, you
might use your child's name in Mandarin with an English translation. Or you may
choose to simply communicate your family's diversity by using a photo of the
child, of just the children if there are siblings, or of the entire family.
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